THE CORE PRINCIPLES AND PRECEPTS FOR CHRISTIAN RELATIONSHIP

Christian relationship can be such a profitable deal, if it is handled decently, in line with the dictates of the Holy Writ. Such relationship must be the one that enhances and promotes purity, power and progress.

1.       The Compatibility Principle

2 Corinthians 6:14-18

Relationship must not be with all men. The rule is: ‘Interact with all men, but relate only with men and women of like-minded passion’.  This is the core principle that defines whom we must walk with in life relationship. It is a 7-point principles as stated below:

-          Purpose(what is he/she living for?)

-          Paternity (who is his/her father- God or Satan?)

-          Partnership (who are his/her friends?)

-          Passion(what drives him/her?)

-          Priority (what is the most important thing in her life)

-          Pursuit (what does he/she dissipate his/her resources going after?)

-          Preference- what choice does he/she make between two options:

·         Eternal and ephemeral

·         Home and house

·         The Word of God and the world etc

2.       The Compatibility Precepts 

Amos 3:3

In choosing for a relationship partner, especially when we hope to walk it up to the altar, let neither sentiment nor infatuation rules. You must think of a man or woman you will continually be proud of walking with even in old age.

There are three basic questions that guide us in this choice:

-          Do I love his/her Spirituality? – Is he/she too ‘spiritual’ or too unspiritual that I can’t cope with her excesses in the future?

-          Do I love his/her Mentality? – Does he/she reason maturely from your own view? If he/she doesn’t, you will have problem trying to manage his/her immaturity after marriage.

-          Do I love his/her Physicality? – Is he/she so presentable to my taste? Every man/woman has got a taste quite differing from others. Engage in relationship with a man/woman you can proudly present to your friends as your partner.

3.       The Christian Perspective 

Proverbs 31:30

Having considered the above core principles and precepts, the Christian man or woman must still remember that the core value of Christian relationship is hinged on godliness and grace. What open teeth, gay physique, intellectual prowess, societal status and privileged background cannot do, grace and godliness can do, as long as we keep walking with God, and being guided by His Spirit.

Christian man and woman, be in relationship with a fellow Christian. Do not make the mistake of engaging in close relationship, whether temporal or permanent with a graceless man or woman. If you do, you will definitely pay for it.

But be mindful of this: “Though there be many ‘wonderful’ brothers and sisters out there, not all are made for you”.

Hear God speak to you: ‘I will make Him an helpmeet for him’ …. Genesis 2:18

Though she be a good woman, if she is not made for you, she won’t serve you any good. If she be a painter and you have no house to paint, then she would need paint your face with a pot of hot soup!

If he be a mechanic, and you have no vehicle to repair, then he must still need to use his tools to panel-beat you.

Be wise! It is God that will make for you… Consult him in prayer before making your choice of life partner…

God bless your soul and your relationship.